For many readers, the answer is NO. Here’s why:
1. I can’t help you change your partner or your child.
For some reason, people think “therapy” is really about “how do I change someone else.”
I get it. My husband and I went to couples’ therapy, each hoping it would change the other person. Well, that didn’t happen.
Thankfully, we both changed, but not as a result of couple’s therapy.
I imagine if we kept trying to change each other we might not have continued to stay together. Guess we’ll never know!
Anyways, I can’t help you if you’re not prepared to focus on what’s going on for you.
2. If you want to deep dive into figuring what went wrong in your childhood,
you’re not going to enjoy my stuff.
It’s not that we’ll never address what happened way back, we just don’t put a lot of energy going down that rabbit hole.
Is it interesting? Probably. If it’s what you’re looking for, you’ll be better served by a psychoanalyst. But, it’s not useful for quickly getting you to where you want to go.
Trying to get better results by focusing on what went wrong in the past is not the way to do that.
3. Some people are looking for ongoing therapy. If that is you, we won’t be a good fit.
I get that you’ve been feeling upset, frustrated, annoyed, angry, traumatized, down. I get that it’s been rough. I totally get it.
But, I don’t believe having a weekly meeting is useful for you when it comes to getting you satisfying results.
Look, focusing on personal transformation is about CHANGE. You’ll be venturing out of the same old, familiar mind-set and heading in a completely different direction.